Decisive Say No

If you are often powerless to refuse an additional assignment of extra work, willing to do the tasks that other people are not willing to do that, chances are you experience a good girl syndrome in the workplace.

From the name, can be known if the fair sex who had a lot of experienced this one syndrome, People like that are those who prefer to avoid confrontation and afraid of taking risks, more obey the instructions given, and try to always humble, so they are difficult to obtain optimal success in your career.

It was influenced by environment and culture of patriarchy, which makes women are trained to always please the others around. Personality is then carried away until they are in the world of work. They never objected when given extra duties in the workplace simply because they feel uncomfortable when refused.

This syndrome must be addressed urgently, because the world's career is now more appreciative of the women who are able to make their own rules, taking a big chance in front of the eyes, and never worry about whether others will like it or not. According to Kate White, author of why Good Girls Do not Get Ahead but Gutsy Girls Do.

On the one hand, do additional tasks can enhance your career because it could provide an opportunity to gain new experiences, However, on the other hand, saying yes to every person every time they ask for help can have a negative impact for your-self. Therefore, learn to recognize when you must reject and accept when asked for assistance. Kate Lorenz, gives advice on how to say no when we do not want to do something that was asked of others:

1. Set the rules and obey the rules
Make the kind of rules for yourself about what you want and do not want to do. For example, if your position is the receptionist at the office, not a secretary, a correspondence course assignment may be rejected if you are asked to do so.

2. Sure with the chosen alternative
Be confident when you decide to say no. Do the same with courtesy and do not need to apologize for your decision to reject the request.
Do not forget to also provide a firm and clear statement of rejection. For example, by saying "I can’t help you do that job," instead of using words like "I think about it yes" or "I'm trying" In this way, other people will respect your decision.

3. Make it simple
Do not get stuck in excessive explanation. If you have already set their own rules, just let other people know about it, without the need to explain the rule at length.


Nevertheless, there is no harm in also if you occasionally do some tasks outside obligations. But do it only on certain conditions as follows:

a. The task was indeed able to develop your skills and help you to achieve the intended goals. But even this may not be done continuously. Once you've got what is needed or desired, stop doing that task again.
b. Your main task is not disrupted if the additional tasks. Do not let your main tasks of everyday becomes a mess.

Workaholics, Not Forever Good

Aka workaholics work enthusiast is very different from the hard-working (hard worker). A hard worker, are generally very aware of the importance of work for the necessities of life, so diligent and appreciate his time in the workplace, Meanwhile, a workaholic who more precisely practically addicted to work because they enjoy life more if drowning in work.

An increasingly heavy burden of life, makes a person involuntarily required to continue to work hard every day. In the end, they no longer work to live but live to work. In fact, quality of life is a balanced life. Here are some symptoms of 'workaholic' and how to overcome them:

1. Each day late
Rhythm of work overload, the desire to continuously complete the job more than what was assigned, and always have a working plan that far more than the existing work schedule, is a contributing factor, A workaholic usually prefer to stay in office until late at night, even just browsing or enjoying a cup of coffee.

The solution, if you have started to arrive early, leave the most soluble, should immediately set the clock back is the same every day, try to not exceed the normal working hours. Alternatively, search for friends who come home in one direction. Besides the trip to be not boring, relationships with co-workers were so much better.

2. Can’t socialize
People who workaholics tend to have limitations in their social life, so far from the impression of 'fun' when interacting with others. For him, nature talks 'intermezo', considered inferior and a waste of time. The only thing that becomes entertainment is watching TV before bed.

So, when you're feeling began to frequent the street or to refuse a meal with friends, beware, this is a sign you start working addiction. Be more open, enjoy life. Feel free to have fun with family or friends, at least once a week.

3. Always talk about work
People who are workaholics, often seen carrying around the paper and his work, although when he was eating. Though a mouthful of food, but his hands still busy complete its tasks.
The solution, when outside the office avoid talking about work, Find other interesting topics to talk about, either over the phone just to say hello. Be aware that talking about the job would only drain energy and trigger a sense of fatigue, Rest.

4. Difficulty sleeping at night
When coming home workaholic person who would take home their work, even down to the bed! Until the time off too, his mind was always filled with office tasks. How to cope, find other activities that are fun after work, for example, simply relax at the cafe, watching movies, or other alternatives. This activity will help calm your mind, after working all day.

5. Deteriorating family relationships
This is the worst effect because you will start to think that relaxing with family, is a waste of time. Despite working hard to produce a lot of money and make your family happy, but reality is not so.

Do not let this continue. Give one day a week dedicated to family and friends. Use it for a walk or just chatting together. We gather together, do it with ease and relaxed, as hard as anything, living life in a way to enjoy it even more beautiful than continue to burden the mind with these matters of employment.

It Sucks when a Colleague

Wherever located, we always meet people with various kinds of character. In the workplace, we will also meet with colleagues different. One or several of them, may not be nice and cooperative. Dealing with annoying coworkers, do not be goaded into emotional, because it will make us tired, and ultimately, weaken our own. So, how do the trick?

1. To prevent him absent from work when in a team with you, make a clear division of labor. Arrange the documents in clear job assignments and then make a copy for him. Do not forget, save the document to yourself, when he argued later.

2. If co-workers that can’t be trusted access to this in your work, always save a copy of your work has been completed. This archive is very important, he acted in a moment, and accuse you of not clearing the work assigned.

3. Never share personal information with these colleagues. Keep the conversation with him only in public and professional boundaries.

4. Key cabinets and give a password on your computer files. If there is sensitive information, such as client lists, make sure that this is really safe.

5. To be more safe and do not gossip about your coworkers this sucks. One-one, you may be regarded as a destroyer of the working atmosphere.

Success at Work interview

Preparation, many people who think this should be taken in applying for a job. Appear just as they are and let companies assess it, so the opinion of some people. This opinion is true, but many mistakenly interpret the phrase above.

Show what it is means you do not lie, but that does not mean you do not prepare themselves well, Leaving the war without knowing the enemy tantamount to suicide, so the old saying goes. Here are some things you can do to further convince the next candidate for your company that you are in their search:

1. Talk in detail during the interview. Find out more about the position offered, the company and products / services offered. The more you know about the position you are applying, the better. In addition, the preparation will make you appear confident if asked about specific things about the company or your job.

2. Bring copies of your resume. The purpose is as a reserve and guard, who know necessary.

3. Make eye contact. When interviewed, do not look down. Look the interviewer straight in the eye every time you want to give an answer. By doing this, you will be perceived as someone who is confident and focused on the goal.


Show your interest and enthusiasm to the company
1. Dress professionally
Meaning of the word, Professional? Here can mean many things, especially at the present time. Suppose you are confused, just use black and white suit as they are commonly used people who apply for jobs. The important thing is more look neat and polite. Believe it or not, first impressions are important!

2. Answer questions within 60 seconds
You may not want to be seen as someone who is passive, but the talk is too long will make the interviewer bored and remove you from the list of his favorite candidate. Clearly, decisive, and appropriate to the goal is a goal that must take precedence.

3. Listen and answer questions directly
If you feel there are things that are unclear, ask immediately for clarification. It is also helpful to avoid misunderstandings in the future.

4. Describe accomplishments you will ever make
Do not ever hesitate to explain what projects you have participated in the previous company. Preparing my-self to do the explanation will affect how your performance on the job you seek.

5. Asked
What is meant here is not to ask questions cliché, Critical questions and sharp will show that you are a proactive (and gives the impression that you are the right person and have the vision to advance the company).

6. Send a thank-you two days after the interview
Show that you are interested with the position being offered and give thanks to your interviewer for taking the time to you. Although you do not get a job, yet maintain good relations with who knows if there is a much better position you to become the first person to be contacted.

5 Most Frequently Asked Questions When Interviewing

To increase confidence in facing the interview, you should prepare answers to questions may be submitted. When you successfully pass the interview process, the greater your chances accepted. Following leaks questions frequently asked on job applicants, as well as alternative answers. What are your strengths and weaknesses?

If you are asked to describe the advantages, tell your ability to present a picture that you are indeed worthy candidates received, so If you expose your weaknesses, to be followed by your efforts to overcome these weaknesses, Speak in ways that enhance self quality based weakness.

1. Why did you quit the previous job?
Interviewer would be interested to know why you left the company where the previous work. Be careful when talking about the previous company. Unwittingly, the company will be ejected also ugliness. This will be assessing the professionalism of your points on the previous firm.

2. Can you describe the employment situation in the previous position?
Questions can be varied, essentially the interviewer wants to see the alacrity of work in the position you hold. Your answer should focus on how you solve problems on the job, handle negotiations stuck, handle problems that come from coworkers or interrogate the various tasks that come simultaneously. All images will be important points to measure your ability to position the drill.

3. What is your opinion about the ideal working environment?
Think about the importance of supervision or management of work is good work to answer these questions. This question was asked to assess your work habits, whether you are a flexible, creative, or maybe you're just people on the strict routine.

4. How do you overcome the mistakes already made?
Tell previous work experience, preferably relevant to the position you seek in the interview. This question is proposed to measure the maturity of the given responsibilities and the means used to fix their mistakes.

5. What is the greatest achievement you've ever made?
You must think at least three or four concrete actions, which means to increase revenue or increase investment in life. If you can measure your own performance, it can promote your skills to the interviewer that you are able to do the same thing at the position you seek.