Decisive Say No

If you are often powerless to refuse an additional assignment of extra work, willing to do the tasks that other people are not willing to do that, chances are you experience a good girl syndrome in the workplace.

From the name, can be known if the fair sex who had a lot of experienced this one syndrome, People like that are those who prefer to avoid confrontation and afraid of taking risks, more obey the instructions given, and try to always humble, so they are difficult to obtain optimal success in your career.

It was influenced by environment and culture of patriarchy, which makes women are trained to always please the others around. Personality is then carried away until they are in the world of work. They never objected when given extra duties in the workplace simply because they feel uncomfortable when refused.

This syndrome must be addressed urgently, because the world's career is now more appreciative of the women who are able to make their own rules, taking a big chance in front of the eyes, and never worry about whether others will like it or not. According to Kate White, author of why Good Girls Do not Get Ahead but Gutsy Girls Do.

On the one hand, do additional tasks can enhance your career because it could provide an opportunity to gain new experiences, However, on the other hand, saying yes to every person every time they ask for help can have a negative impact for your-self. Therefore, learn to recognize when you must reject and accept when asked for assistance. Kate Lorenz, gives advice on how to say no when we do not want to do something that was asked of others:

1. Set the rules and obey the rules
Make the kind of rules for yourself about what you want and do not want to do. For example, if your position is the receptionist at the office, not a secretary, a correspondence course assignment may be rejected if you are asked to do so.

2. Sure with the chosen alternative
Be confident when you decide to say no. Do the same with courtesy and do not need to apologize for your decision to reject the request.
Do not forget to also provide a firm and clear statement of rejection. For example, by saying "I can’t help you do that job," instead of using words like "I think about it yes" or "I'm trying" In this way, other people will respect your decision.

3. Make it simple
Do not get stuck in excessive explanation. If you have already set their own rules, just let other people know about it, without the need to explain the rule at length.


Nevertheless, there is no harm in also if you occasionally do some tasks outside obligations. But do it only on certain conditions as follows:

a. The task was indeed able to develop your skills and help you to achieve the intended goals. But even this may not be done continuously. Once you've got what is needed or desired, stop doing that task again.
b. Your main task is not disrupted if the additional tasks. Do not let your main tasks of everyday becomes a mess.