Determine Your Priorities

Women's work, always face the dilemma between career and family. Attention, time, energy, must be divided. Sometimes they are confused to set priorities, and consequently it is bad for both, stagnant career, family unkempt. Then, what should be done by working mothers? Balance, the point, May not devote 100 percent attention to your work and 100 percent for families. There should be a priority scale, career or family who became the main focus.

If you're forced to do two roles that are perfect, in fact you will suffer. Though now there are rules which family-friendly employment, working hours that can negotiable for example, but still you have to choose.

Shapiro, chairman of the department of Counseling Psychology at Santa Clara University, says you must be honest in determining priorities. "If you have chosen a career as number one priority and the children at the second position, you should not force children to become number one, you will actually hurt them."

You'll also be smart to position your priorities. Not a career or a child forever be a top priority at all times. At some point, you can shift the position of the two. According to Shapiro, this is the key to successful career women outside the home.

When children are young, my mother worked fine career slowed rhythm. Not that dismissed the obsession into a career peak, but a set of time management to achieve goals. Switch to the 'queen bee' instead of 'worker bees'. Delegate tasks or responsibilities can be delegated to small others. Conversely, prioritizing the important work that supports your career, by doing this, besides giving opportunity to others, can also reduce your expenses.

Get used to work on time. Not too late to work, and no work beyond office hours. Discipline in working to help lighten your workload. Do not forget to make time for yourself. Set aside some time for exercising, hanging out with friends or just a walk. Personal time is very important to refresh them-selves.


Child care
Mom works all day can’t take care of children, needed the help of others to this parenting business. Family assistance, child care, child care or services to be reliable, depending on your needs and budget you have. Quality child care a positive impact on emotional and intellectual development of children. Therefore, consider carefully before you deciding to entrust the child, that no less important, talk with your boss about the waivers in employment.

But if you place a career as a top priority, do not do compromise with the boss. Requested waivers of working hours, avoid overtime or travel, you will no longer send signals to focus on the job. As a result, will assess your boss can not be paralleled in the front row. Your career will be stuck there. Whatever your choice, make sure you are serious about living it.

If Mom Must Work

For those of you who are familiar active and always energetic, stay at home alone is boring and this can sometimes trigger atmosphere of households that are not healthy.

You want to be given right of self-actualization, for a career and become financially independent. As a solution, you also choose to work part-time. However, the constraints, how about the development of your baby at home? How can you monitor?

So you don’t feel confused and dubious, here are some considerations that must be considered before you decide to work part-time:

1. Distance work location
Keep in mind how much time should be taken to get to the office location. If you find that you simply run out of time on the road course then this will not be effective if you have to work part-time. You also will be faced with the attendance system in the office that you must obey.
We suggest you choose a work location which is not too far from home, so that your time and energy to get to the office location is not wasted. Locations near also helps you get closer to the children if at any time they need your presence as soon as possible.

2. Flexibility of work
If your child is aged under two years of age are very vulnerable to take part to work with you, Of course you need time to work a very flexible, because any time your child will need your presence and attention, for example because the child was sick.

Choose the type of work that is not too demanding punctuality. If you work in an office, make sure if your boss is the person who placed the value of family as a priority. If it has excess capital, you can open a family business, such as opening a beauty salon, opened a store in a house, a private teaching, write off or make certain works that can be done at home (home industry).

3. Spaces where children work
Your absence is often incorrectly interpreted sometimes children as a rejection of you against them. For children, the absence of parents near them is very painful. It was such a terrible separation. This is of course a serious dilemma for those who have to work but can’t leave the little one still needs a lot of attention to her mother.

But if you've decided with very ripe to bring the child while working, consider the room where your child will play or rest. The existence of the child outside the house really must be made as comfortable as possible. Do not get overwhelmed and do not you be concentrating on working because the child kept fussing.

4. Effect of irradiation time
We decided to work outside the home, you can ask for colleagues, family or a maid who has been trained. They are the ones who should you trust and can do all your habits that you normally do. You must apply the rules and principles to people you trust to keep your baby while you work. Do not let the children were confused by the two kinds of rules.

You go to work was very helpful family economy, but working part time can also be dangerous for you and your baby if developments could be act wisely. Sometimes too busy working, you forget about time. Remember that the main obligations are mothers who raise and educate children. All sorts of mental education, spiritual, social and so forth remains in your hands.

And although the quality time is more meaningful than just quantity, but do not deny your presence with the children still needed. Remind yourself to never too late and was busy with work. If necessary, write in your workspace: Negligence one minute requires hard work for years to restore.

5. Always there for the child (availability)
Although you have to work it, keep yourself prepared to always be there for the kids. You can begin to give insight and understanding that you do have to work, such as by explaining that you are working in order to buy milk or toys for the little guy.
But that does not mean you're off duty after the children while you work outside the home. Mental development, physical and still be considered reasonable, Take time to notice how busy you all the needs of the child, Jobs can be postponed, but the main mother should always be available for their children.

6. Recognize the signs stopped working
You must always be sensitive to see the needs of children, because some very specific child requires intensive attention of his mother, not only in physical but also felt the need must be met. Usually kids like this tend to be sensitive. Notice if your child has begun to fuss, often acting strangely for your attention, and looks nervous.

Even if you can no longer rely on the caregivers of children who are not good enough to protect children from the influence of his own, home or school environment and also the media, this is the alarm and alert you to immediately decide to stop working, Remember, never force children to know and understand your needs, quite the contrary you should strive to be able to understand and meet all the needs of children.

Is Mom could Work?

While the household economy have ups and downs, as the wife of a wise should you come play save and household purposes. Options to return to work even then become your consideration.

But the decision to return to work after some time being a housewife is not easy. You must re-adapt to the world of work which has long did you leave first. Not to mention you have to deal with the temporary separation of children has always been close to you.

Wise if the decision to return to work this really weighed the pros and cons, then decide based on the stability of the liver is also your mental readiness. First of all, think the worst thing that you will encounter. No doubt the economic slowdown has raised the level of unemployment. Many companies then conduct a massive downsizing. Worst, you have to compete with the 'fresh graduate' who may be more promising for the company. Without qualified skills, preparing my-self faced with a difficult competition.

But if the decision to return to work was indeed no longer be prevented then you have to do is to think intelligently, anticipate challenges and increasing your chances to succeed in the competitive world of work.

1. Refine the skills and abilities. If necessary, go back to school and learn many things. You can start by taking online classes at the university.
2. Nothing wrong also for diligent follow-related seminars in the world of work skills.
3. Expand your network
4. If possible, you can work part time or as volunteers to fill the void of time. This can help hone your skills.

And before you start job-hunting, the first thing you should do is
1. Self-assess the situation personally. Only you can measure the ability of self in order to determine what works best for you.

2. No doubt the amount of revenue will be followed by a big expenditure. Determine the immediate needs that must be met after you have worked, such as day care and childcare costs, work clothes, transportation costs are also the obligation to pay income tax.

3. Consider also the age of the baby, the family schedule and whether there is any nanny that you will be able to determine the shift and the number of hours you work per day. A lot of work to finish your trip, too, was out of town would also confiscate your time with family. Set as wise as possible so that your contribution to family and work can be equally fulfilled.

4. Discuss this heart to heart with the children. Your decision to return to work this course will take effect for the baby's mental development at home. You need to give children an understanding of the larger of your decision and how it will impact on the lives and their time with you. Be honest, consistent and mean that you will provide quality time for them.

Okay, you've weighed all the good and bad about your decision to return to work and now is the time to transmit the skills you have as your contribution in the world of work. Remember, too, still holds the financial principles and your needs. With perseverance, hard work and patience, you will get maximum results, Family harmony and brilliant career.